Are you wondering, “Why am I continuing this Mediation/Collaboration – we are so off course, or we are so stuck, or they are way too adversarial, or they are so annoying, or at least one of them clearly doesn’t want to settle, or is not being truthful, or I (or we) don’t think I’m (we’re) helping them?” How do you decide if you should continue? Can anything be done to make you want to continue? Is it possible that not continuing might be better for them (and you)? If so, how do you go about terminating the process?
In this three-session program we will be exploring: challenging your own belief that to terminate is to fail, screening interventions to prevent impasse, what to do when your neutrality is challenged.
There will be time at the end of each session to discuss problem cases. Sample cases and questions will be made available before each session. A second follow-up series is in the works for later in the year. In the next segment we will explore: having the difficult conversations with the clients and other professionals, how knowing yourself leads to better results and how to terminate ethically.
This online program has been conceived as a follow-up to the half-day “Calling it Quits” workshop held in North Haven on May 10, 2023, but attendance at that event is not a prerequisite for this course, which will more deeply explore some of the issues raised at that presentation.
12:30 – 2:00 pm
Wednesday, January 17, 2024
Wednesday, February 21, 2024
Wednesday, March 20, 2024
No refunds for cancellations after December 27, 2023.
Louise Zito, Esq. has mediated family and related matters for over 35 years and draws heavily on her Mediation experience in her Collaborative work. She takes great delight in training new mediators and learning from them and her partner, Eva DeFranco, who never fails to challenge and energize. Louise also trains Attorneys, Family Specialists and Financial Specialists in Advanced Family Mediation and Collaborative topics.
Louise is a Senior Fellow to the Quinnipiac School of Law Center on Dispute Resolution. She is an APFM Certified Advanced Practitioner and is a current Board member and Past President of CCND. She co-founded the Divorce Solutions of CT and the Ct Family Mediation Training Group. She is a member of the Connecticut Summit of Collaborative Professionals, APFM and IACP. Louise is also on the Steering Committee for The Taskforce on Reimagining Family Dispute Resolution, a joint project of CCND and The Center on Dispute Resolution. She is also a principal in Center for Family Mediation and Collaborative Divorce and partner in the Calma Collective which offers advanced trainings for family law professionals in retreat settings.
Louise happily joined Dolan Divorce Lawyers in 2021 after many inspired and joyful years as a partner in Biller, Sachs, Raio and Zito. She now serves as Of Counsel to Dolan Family Law which allows her to continue Consultations, offer Second Opinions and engage in Impasse Resolution and Termination Consultations. She is proud to work with the many talented attorneys in this firm, and grateful for the opportunities afforded her in this position. She has received numerous awards in recognition of her work in law, the community and family dispute resolution, and is most grateful and honored to be the recipient of the Howard Krieger Beacon Lifetime Achievement Award, 2021.
Robert A. Horwitz, Ph.D. (Yale, 1976) is a clinical psychologist in independent practice in New Haven, working with children, adolescents, individual adults, couples, and families for over 40 years. Inspired by the interdisciplinary volunteer mediation program established by Judge Steinberg in the Regional Family Trial Docket in Middletown, he received his first mediation training in 1996 and has since helped many couples, married and unmarried, before, during and after their separation or divorce, particularly in disputes regarding children and parenting. A former president of the Connecticut Psychological Association and co-president of CCND (when it was previously called CCDM), serving on the board of both organizations for many years, he also was a board member and secretary of the Academy of Professional Family Mediators (APFM). “When to call it quits?” is a question he asks himself very often!
Beth M. Karassik, Ph.D. is a Family Specialist/Divorce Coach and Child Specialist in the Collaborative Practice of Divorce and a trained mediator who often co-mediates separations/divorces with other professionals. In her Divorce and Separation practice, she brings a deep appreciation, based on personal experience, of the impact of divorce on families and couples. Her expertise as a neuropsychologist gives her insight into how emotions like loss, uncertainty, and fear affect thinking and decision-making during difficult times like divorce. Her own divorce and experience of co-parenting deepened her understanding of the challenges involved in this transitional time for families. As a clinical psychologist trained in Discernment Counseling, Mediation, and Collaborative Divorce she works with people at all stages of contemplating or entering into the divorce/separation process. She is co-chair of CCND’s Professional Development Committee and a Board and Executive Committee member of CCND.
Elizabeth S. Thayer, Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist at Beacon Behavioral Services LLC, in West Hartford. She is trained in mediation and collaborative divorce and has many years of interdisciplinary experience as a mental health collaborative divorce coach. She is a past co-president of the Collaborative Divorce Group of Connecticut and co-chair of both the Trainers Committee and the Access to Collaborative Committee of the International Academy of Divorce Professionals (IACP). She is a trainer in the Connecticut Collaborative Training Group and has trained numerous lawyers, mental health professionals, and financial professionals in CT, across the USA, and internationally. She is dedicated to promoting and developing access to collaborative divorce for all clients. She and the staff at the Children’s Law Center in Hartford designed and implemented an inclusive access to collaborative program for clients regardless of income level, called Rebuilding Families. She is co-founder of the PEACE program, a parent counseling program for parents of divorce, and co-author of two publications: The Co-Parenting Survival Guide and Adult Children of Divorce. Dr. Thayer provides individual, group, couples and family therapy and mediation and has given numerous presentations, workshops, and trainings for professionals. She is on the board of the Children’s Law Center, a former board member of CCND, and board member of Copper Beech Institute, West Hartford. Dr. Thayer is also a former member of the Board of Examiners of Psychologists in Connecticut. Dr. Thayer received her BA from Goucher College in 1973, her Ed.M. from Harvard University in 1974, and her Ph.D. from the University of Rhode Island in 1978. She also completed her post-doctoral training at the Devereux Foundation, Devon, PA, 1978-1980.
Lisa Gresham, CDFA is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst and founder of Equitable Divorce Solutions, LLC. She has over 35 years of financial and investment experience and has focused her practice solely on the complex financial issues specific to divorce. Lisa works to aid in the design of settlement options that will help her clients disentangle their finances and move forward with independence and stability after divorce. She focuses on budgeting, evaluating tax and cash flow implications with possible settlement scenarios and short and long term projections in order to help her clients meet their financial needs. As financial neutral in a Collaborative Divorce, Lisa helps her clients identify their interests, moving away from positions, in order to find workable options for the family as a whole.
Lisa is one of the four founding partners of the CT Family Mediation Training Group™, an organization providing divorce mediation training for attorneys, financial and mental health professionals. She is also teaches public educational seminars on the financial aspects of divorce and participates as a trainer in the Introductory Interdisciplinary Collaborative Divorce training sponsored by CCND.
11 people are attending In Whose Best Interest?<br>Or When To Call It Quits 2.0
11 people are attending In Whose Best Interest?<br>Or When To Call It Quits 2.0